بِسْــــــــــــــــــمِ اﷲِالرَّحْمَنِ اارَّحِيم Hidup tak selalunya indah, tapi yang indah itu tetap hidup dalam kenangan
Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.

Monday, 1 October 2012

How to be happy:

Be optimistic. In the seventies, researchers followed people who'd won the lottery and found that a year afterward, they were no happier than people who didn't. This hedonic adaptation suggests that we each have a baseline level of happiness. No matter what happens, good or bad, the effect on our happiness is temporary, and we tend to revert to our baseline level. Some people have a higher baseline happiness level than others, and that is due in part to genetics, but it's also largely influenced by how you think. So, while this article will help boost your happiness, only improving your attitude towards life will increase your happiness permanently

Have something to look forward to, always. It's important to work toward a goal you'll achieve by getting up every morning. Having something to look forward to makes you see the "big picture" and you won't feel as if you are just working every day towards nothing. Do something for someone else; when you are working on something bigger than yourself, you will find that inspiration naturally comes to you

Follow your gut. In one study, two groups of people were asked to pick a poster to take home. One group was asked to analyze their decision, weighing pros and cons, and the other group was told to listen to their gut. Two weeks later, the group that followed their gut was happier with their posters than the group that analyzed their decisions. Now, some of our decisions are more crucial than picking out posters, but by the time you're poring over your choice, the options you're weighing are probably very similar, and the difference will only temporarily affect your happiness. So next time you have a decision to make, and you're down to two or three options, just pick the one that feels right, and go with it. Never regret the decisions you make, though. Just live by the 3 C's of life: choices, chances, and changes. You need to make a choice to take a chance, or your life will never change. 

Make enough money to meet basic needs: food, shelter, and clothing. In the US, that magic number is $40,000 a year. Any money beyond that will not necessarily make you happier. Remember the lottery winners mentioned earlier? Oodles of money didn't make them happier. Once you make enough to support basic needs, your happiness is not significantly affected by how much money you make, but by your level of optimism

Stay close to friends and family: Or move to where they are, so you can see them more. We live in a mobile society, where people follow jobs around the country and sometimes around the world. We do this because we think salary increases make us happier, but in fact our relationships with friends and family have a far greater impact on happiness. So next time you think about relocating, consider that you'd need a salary increase of over $100,000 USD to compensate for the loss of happiness you'd have from moving away from friends and family. But if relationships with family and friends are unhealthy or nonexistent, and you are bent on moving, choose a location where you'll make about the same amount of money as everyone else; according to research, people feel more financially secure (and happier) when on similar financial footing as the people around them, regardless of what that footing is.

Have deep, meaningful conversations. A study by a psychologist at the University of Arizona has shown that spending less time participating in small talk and more time in deep, meaningful conversations can increase happiness.





1 comment:

  1. walau seremuk mana hati dilukai, bentuklah ia semula dan serahkan kepada Allah...


    hiduplah dengan gembira, walaupun kadang-kadang kita didatangi pelbagai cubaan. Kuatkan hati, tetapkan pegangan diri, bahawa kita mampu melalui cubaan itu.
    Tanpa cubaan, kita tidak tahu tahap kesabaran kita yang sebenarnya.

    jadilah seorang yang kuat. telan pahit itu sebagai madu. kerana pahit ujian Allah itu disusuli dengan madu sayangnya Dia terhadap kita.

    Cubaan itu sebenarnya kehidupan..:)

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